Do you experience a wave of fear at the start of a reading?
Does your mind go blank? Are you terrified that you will not be able to say
anything to your client? Do you have no idea what you are going to say, or how the
reading will progress? Congratulations! You are at the point of maximum
potential for synergy. At this point when you are open to what is going in the
querent’s life, and the querent is open to what you have to say, you can really
make a difference — you can create magic and transform the situation for your
client. This is the tipping point where some of the old scripts of life can be
transformed and rewritten into new paradigms that bring opportunity, abundance,
empowerment and hope. Many times I have witnessed this transformation, and it
is truly inspiring.
Many of the clients who come to me have run out of ideas.
They have tried to live a ‘good’ life. They are concerned for others; they have
helped others whenever possible. They have lived an external life —
satisfaction comes from seeing other people grow, but in the process they have
forgotten their own feelings — they are empty inside. They no longer know or
trust their own feelings, so they have no idea how other people in their life
really feel. The balance has to be restored so that they trust their own inner
instincts and feelings. Life has to become inner-directed again so they
reconnect with Self. However, is this not selfish? It is if they want to push
others out of the way to fulfil their own desires, but most people are so
respectful of the feelings and needs of others that they are paralysed. Despite
their best intentions, they are in a Lose/Lose situation, and so they fear that
when their feelings return, they will find themselves in a Win/Lose position.
With synergetic tarot readings, a way of creating a Win/Win situation in the
life of the querent is found. One of the fascinating aspects of synergetic
tarot readings is that not one, but many new directions are found, giving
freedom of choice.
Synergetic tarot readings break the dichotomy of either/or
mentalities that are so prevalent. Whenever querents present an either/or
situation, actually they want to do neither, which is why nothing happens. If
you want to do something that you enjoy, do you really think about what you are
not doing? I doubt it. It is only when you are faced with unpalatable
alternatives that the either/or paradigm presents itself.
Synergetic thinking and attitudes enable us to value
differences between people. Synergetic tarot thinking brings value to the differences between the
tarot cards. By using the Opening of the Key Spread, I see the whole picture —
all the cards are spread before me.
The techniques of card counting and elemental dignities
bring value to the cards for that reading and that reading alone. Each card is
valued by its relationship to the cards in terms of elemental energies and
connections to other cards. Since card counting can proceed from either
direction, the value of each card can and does depend on direction — the
energies of the previous cards, and where this energy will be projected onto as
it is transformed that card. The entire reading becomes a synergetic exercise
that has profound consequences for the reader and the querent, for nothing has
been left out. For the querent, the pattern of the cards is truly chaotic, but
the tarot reader has the skills and techniques to pick out the important cards,
and how to relate them to each other, for it is the synergetic value of these
relationships that the tarot presents to the reader, who is then in a powerful
position to communicate these synergies to the querent.
Finding and overcoming ‘blocks’
Many clients who come for a tarot reading feel ‘blocked’ in whatever they
want to do. Some are so blocked that they have given up trying to see a future
for themselves. Part of the problem is that they have been brought up to serve
others. Their attention is directed outwards to the emotional needs of people
around them. This continued process results in a state whereby inner feelings
have been suppressed to the point that they appear not to exist. Only the
feelings of others count. At the same there is a lot of intense suppressed
anger directed at just about everyone and everything. This anger is suppressed
because adults are mature and do not need to express themselves in this way.
This false perception of feelings and maturity insidiously grows within over
the years. The anger gets internalised and the individual becomes angry at
himself instead, focussing on failure. To express a desire is selfish — it is
better to sacrifice your feelings for the betterment of others. The person
stuck in this situation expresses pleasure at the success of the nearest and
dearest, but secretly wishes that he or she was having this success. People in
this situation are often told that they are selfish even when they are not.
This is the process of brainwashing that people around them conspire in.
However, if I tell you that you are selfish, it is because you are not doing
what I want you to do; so who is really the selfish person? The one who accuses
you of selfishness, of course. The net result of trying to be a ‘good person’
is a devastating loss of confidence. Paradoxically, friends and family of the
person may see them as having high self confidence, because they do not show
their feelings!
There comes a point when you realise that your trust in the feelings and
intentions of others — that they are right and you may be wrong — breaks down.
At this point you no longer trust others, and you have nothing within you to
trust yourself. This double whammy is devastating, but there is a way out of
this impasse. For every action there is a reaction. This is an immutable law of
nature recognised by Isaac Newton. Synergetic Tarot resolves this situation
creating an environment that nurtures success, minimising those forces that
prevent you from being successful. These forces of negativity, emotional
blocks, illogicality, social and psychological have to be overcome.
The moment you start to express your independence in thoughts, emotions or
actions, those around you in your family, ‘friends’ or the workplace will
immediately act to put you back in your place. After all, they have invested
heavily in your compliance, and they will not relinquish control easily. The
use of the guilt that you already feel will be used against you again and
again. The harder you push, the more they resist, and if you are not careful
and resolute you may feel that the opposition is too great.
The key to resolving this situation is to start expressing your feelings to
get something you want. Were you told as a child that ‘I wants don’t get’? I
was, and it took me many years to realise something. ‘I wants do get’, however
the paradigm is different. Five year olds want something from the parent, while
adults are expected to do things to get it themselves. Expressing a desire can
be as simple as ‘I am thirsty’, or ‘I am hungry’, and then of course you have
to find a drink or food. Desires can be expressed when with people who care for
you, not with those who put you down, so when you express the desire for food
and drink, the next question will be ‘what is it you want?’, so you have to
respond with something specific — a coffee, tea, a glass of wine, etc, not ‘whatever you’re having…’. After all, you can always buy the next round of
drinks, as I am sure you would do anyway. As your confidence grows, you can
start expressing desires that are more important to you, and that can be easily
fulfilled. You can also start to express feelings, such as ‘I am angry’, I am
tired, etc. the trick here is not to direct the source of the anger or
negative feelings at the person you are saying this to. Done this way, your
friend or partner is told that you are in a bad mood and the reason is somebody
else, such as to do with work, the government, etc. It does not matter who, as
long as the friend or partner understands the state that you are in, and they
did not cause it. Then, they can do something about how you feel, such as by
listening, getting you a drink, giving you a cuddle, or whatever else you want.
They do know how to respond don’t they? You did tell them what they need to do
when you are in a bad mood. The problem is that in the past you probably hid
your feelings, and then you wondered why people could not tell you what mood
you are in. this is why you have to verbalise your emotional state. There are
levels of expression of course. When a very young child asks ‘where do babies
come from?’ the answer is usually ‘mummies’ tummy’. This is usually good enough
for now until the next time when a little bit more information is furnished.
The same is for adults. You do not necessarily have to give the real reason for
why you feel the way you do as long as you get the response you require. With
time and the return of your confidence, you can expand on the reasons for your
feelings, as long as you are expressing those feelings to bring some
satisfaction to your life that can be fulfilled by the person you are
expressing those feelings too. I very much doubt you will become the
super-selfish person you fear. After all, what is the worst you will do?
Double-park? You are already respectful of the feelings of others, and now that
you are articulating your feelings to the people you care about, they will be
responding in kind. These things take time, and you have to build the trust
within yourself before you can be more open in your feelings. The time will
come when instead of worrying about the feelings of others before yourself;
people will be more concerned about knowing how you feel, and what they can do
for you.
In a synergetic tarot reading you are no longer held back by those negative forces,
except those that exist in your head, and suddenly you are free to start the
process of exploration that will result in the creation of new goals for
yourself. Synergetic tarot is empowering — you realise you can solve your own
problems. You reach out to new levels, and bring the opportunity to meet new
people who will meet you on the new levels of strength, positivism and success.
The ability to validate your own inner experience is vital in this process.
